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premiyon ke 9 prakaar - mud sanskaran
steekar
kah raha hai: priye, mainne sab kuchh samanvayit kar liya hai (samay se kaaphee pahale!), aur mainne pratibaddhata ke maanak taiyaar kar lie hain. main, jaahir hai, lagaataar samay par hoon aur main aapake saath eemaanadaaree se vyavahaar karata hoon, aur main itana chakit ho jaata hoon ki aap vaisa hee nahin kar sakate. main isaka kaaran nahin samajh pa raha hoon ki kyon vyakti (aap!) samanvit, bharosemand, jaagarook nahin ho paate hain aur khud ko sarvottam ummeedon par kaayam nahin rakh paate hain. kis kaaran se kisee bhee samay aapamen vyaktigat vikaas ke lie meree tarah samaan ichchha ho sakatee hai? isake alaava, aisa kaise ho sakata hai ki aap bistar ko is tarah se barbaad kar sakate hain jabaki mainne kavar ko trutiheen dhang se samaayojit kiya hai taaki ham sahee aur anurodhit maahaul mein yaun sambandhon mein sanlagn ho saken? kya aapako aprashikshit hone kee aavashyakata hai? nishchit roop se, main ise ek saath rakh sakata hoon! krpaya apratibandhit disha-nirdeshon ka varnan karen.
chhadeedaar ke lie pratikaarak: aaraam karo, thoda gadabad karo (ya ek tan!), aur kabhee-kabhee paap karo. aap aam taur par sahee nahin ho sakate.
pradaata
kah raha hai: priye, dekho mainne tumhaare lie kya banaaya hai! dayaalu, isase koee phark nahin padata ki aapako isakee aavashyakata hai ya nahin. isake alaava, philahaal krpaya mujhe yah na bataen ki aapako isakee jaroorat nahin hai, kyonki main itana kaam kar chuka hoon, bahut mehanat kar raha hoon aur aapake lie khud ko kurbaan kar raha hoon. kisee bhee ghatana mein mere prayaason ke lie aap meree kuchh saraahana karenge. tumhen mere prayaason se pareshaan hone kee aavashyakata nahin hai? chaahe jo bhee ho, main aapakee seva ke lie jeevit hoon!! aapakee aavashyakataon ko poora karane ke alaava meree koee aavashyakata nahin hai. isake alaava, jaahir taur par mainne aapake lie jo kuchh bhee haasil kiya hai, use dekhate hue aapane mujhe apana samay, pyaar aur anumodan diya hai (achchha hoga ki aap is par vishvaas karen, aisa hee hota hai, mujhe vaastav mein sabhee cheejon kee zarooraton par vichaar karana padata hai... isake alaava, shaayad gupt iraade...) kya aap sachamuch mere daan ko niyantran aur ghutan ke roop mein dekhate hain? aap itanee kroor baat kaise kah sakate hain jab main keval hamaare rishte aur aapakee aavashyakataon kee kalpana kar sakata hoon? mainne aapake lie jo kuchh bhee kiya hai (kisee bhee sthiti mein, jab isake lie anurodh nahin kiya gaya hai) usake baad aapako apanee jagah kee aavashyakata kaise ho sakatee hai?
pradaata ke lie pratikaarak: bahut saaree oorja pooree tarah se akele nivesh karen aur doosaron ke jeevan (vishesh roop se aapake aadhe hisse) kee madad karane aur us par dabaav daalane ke aaveg ka virodh karen. doosare ke saath atyadhik ulajhane kee koshish na karen, unhen saans lene den aur khud se nipatane den. aap apane aap se aur apanee aavashyakataon se nipatate hain (jo aapake paas bahut adhik hain - aap nishchit roop se, jab aap achambhe mein hote hain to sabase jarooratamand prakaar ke hote hain).
upalabdhi haasil karane vaala
kahate hue: priye, mainne aaj kaaryasthal par 11 ghante bitae, jaahir hai ki main thodee der baad manoranjan kendr gaya, aur ab main apane raatri vyavasaay paathyakram kee or nikal pada hoon. he bhagavaan, aur apane madhyaahn avakaash mein mainne apane nae sait udyam ko nipataaya aur mainne yah bhee socha ki is shaanadaar jagah ko kaise bulaaya jae aur ek dijainar ke aane aur doosare soot ke lie meree lambaee tak jaane ka prabandh kiya. kya aapako mere saath oorja nivesh karane kee zaroorat hai? sabhee baaton par vichaar karate hue, yadi ham yah jaanch karen ki kya main aapako apanee aam taur par bahut vyast samay saarinee mein shaamil kar sakata hoon... dayaalu, aapako yaun sambandhon mein shaamil hone kee aavashyakata hai? nihsandeh, ise sthaapit kiya ja sakata hai... chaudah joon kahen?
soch: yadi yah bahut adhik pareshaanee kee baat nahin hai, to main jo kuchh bhee karata hoon usake lie meree saraahana karen, aur mujhe mere udyamon se na hataen (ya lagaataar ephabee par khud ko lebal karane ke lie mujhe jaj na karen taaki log mujhe dekh saken). main pooree tarah se ghrnit hoon, sivaay isake ki agar main badee sankhya mein cheejen haasil karata hoon aur ek saath, lagaataar apana sarvashreshth pradarshan karata hoon.
upalabdhi haasil karane vaalon ke lie ilaaj: kam karo, der karo, aur adhik mahasoos karo!!
dooradarshee
kah raha hai: dayaalu, main us madhur lekin aakarshak, prakaash se bharapoor lekin dhaka hua, ulajhan mein daalane vaala lekin ujaagar karane vaale sangh ke lie bahut utsuk hoon jahaan kisee any bhoomi se ek aakarshak shaasak samudr paar karega aur mujhe aspasht aur prem kee gaharaee mein le jaega. main jo hoon usake lie oorjaavaan hoon, apanee vishishtata aur kshamata ke lie, aur apanee peeda ka sammaan karoonga, aur is peeda ko mahasoos karoonga, aur ham hamesha ke lie peeda mein jute rahenge aur baad mein khushee se rahenge... kya hai vah, priye? aap kah rahe hain ki aap ek sachche vyakti hain aur aap sachamuch is kshan mein meree kadr karate hain? dayaalu, yah itana paaramparik lagata hai, main apanee kalpana par lautana pasand karoonga. (is beech yah maan lena bahut achchha hoga ki aap bilon ko kavar karane ke lie nakadee lae hain.)
soch: main itana ghrnit mahasoos karata hoon, doosaron ke paas jo kuchh hai usase eershya karata hoon, mera apana durbhaagy aur dukh aur samarpan kee yah gaharee bhaavana mujh par is kadar haavee ho jaatee hai ki main bas isase bachana chaahata hoon. mujhe lagata hai ki main apanee kalaiyaan kaat sakata hoon. phir bhee, sabase pahale main ek sonet likhoonga jisake lie ek din, ek door kee smrti mein rahane ke baad, mujhe antatah pahachaana jaega, saraaha jaega aur saraaha jaega...
dooradarshee ke lie upaay: vaastavik banen! saamaany mein prakaash aur prasannata dekhen! jo aapake paas hai usaka mauke par hee moolyaankan karen. doosaron ke saath apanee tulana na karane ka prayaas karen, aur doosaron ke baare mein jo sochate hain usake prati naaraaz na hon. adhik samaan vichaaradhaara vaale tareeke se jeevan kee or badhen. poora adhik karo, sapane kam dekho. sabhee baaton par vichaar karane par, kisee ko bilon ka bhugataan karana hoga aur yah maanate hue ki aap vyaktigat roop se aisa karate hain, sab kuchh achchha hai. visheshagyon ko bhee nakadee laane kee anumati hai, sahanasheelata unaka mukhy pesha nahin hai.
vidvaan
vyakt karana: seks ke baare mein baat karate hue, priy, kya aapako pata hai ki apanee tarah kee sabase badee serebram imejing jaanch nishchit roop se logon ke lie kuchh seks-spasht udaaharanon kee khoj karatee hai, phir bhee aam taur par vahaan tulana mein adhik sankhya mein samaanataen hone ka aabhaas hota hai virodhaabhaas. pareekshan kaary is baare mein dilachasp mudde saamane laata hai ki lingon ke beech serebram virodhaabhaas antardrshti aur aacharan ko kaise prabhaavit kar sakata hai... vaastav mein lambe samay se, mastishk shodhakartaon ne dekha hai ki kul milaakar, purush serebram mein aam taur par mahilaon kee tulana mein kuchh had tak adhik serebram maatra hogee, kisee bhee ghatana mein, jab logon ke bade saamaany shareer ke aakaar ka ilaaj kiya jaata hai. haalaanki, yah spasht roop se pata chala hai ki mastishk ke kaun se aadhaar bahut bade hain. adhikaansh pareekshanon mein aam taur par chhote namoona aakaaron ko dekha jaata hai - aam taur par 100 se kam dimaag bade daayare ko akalpaneey bana dete hain... ek naee sameeksha mein, edinabarg kolej ke postadoktaral vyakti, chikitsak stuart richee ke maargadarshan mein vaigyaanikon ke ek samooh ne kaha yooke baayobaink se milee jaanakaaree ke anusaar, 500,000 naamaankit logon ke saath ekeekrt kshetr mein rahane vaale vyaktiyon kee ek satat, lambee avadhi kee baayomedikal jaanch. sameeksha ke lie sain ap karane vaalon ka ek upasamooh eks-re ka upayog karake serebram philtar se gujara. 44-77 varsh kee aayu kee 2750 mahilaon aur 2466 purushon mein, richee aur unake sahayogiyon ne mastishk ke andar 68 jilon kee maatra ka vishleshan kiya, saath hee serebral korteks kee motaee, serebram kee jhurreedaar baaharee parat ko sangyaan, bhaasha, smrti mein mahatvapoorn maana jaata hai. , vivek, aur vibhinn kshamataen...
kya? aap kah rahe hain ki aapako hamaare saath yaun sambandh banaane kee zaroorat hai? dayaalu, main vaastav mein us moolyavaan jaanakaaree ko niyamit ghatana ke roop mein sthaapit karane ka saahas karane se pahale bahut adhik dhyaan kendrit karake poora karana chaahata hoon. main bhavishy mein bas sannyaas le loonga aur apanee khoj jaaree rakhoonga.
maastaramaind ke lie pratikaarak: ruchi len. aapane jo mahasoos kiya hai usaka abhyaas karen. un sabhee saadhanon ko aage badhaana shuroo karen jinake baare mein aap padhana aur anveshan karana jaaree rakhate hain. kitaabon se kam aur vyaktiyon se adhik juden. ham vaastav mein aapako pasand karate hain, is tathy ke baavajood ki aap ek bade vakta kee tarah baat karate hain (aur nakaaraatmak, ham aapake dvaara saajha kee jaane vaalee sabhee "achchhee" vaastavikataon kee kam paravaah nahin kar sakate hain). bas hamaare saath mauj-mastee mein shaamil ho jaie, ham kutarate nahin hain.
madhyasth baaharee vyakti
kah raha hai: priye, aap sabhee ko apratyaashit roop se ek aur kaiphe ka prayaas karane kee aavashyakata kyon hai, jabaki ham is samay paanch varshon se ek hee kaiphe mein ja rahe hain? is sambhaavana par vichaar karen ki bhojan badhiya nahin hai aur hamen bhojan dooshit ho jaata hai. is sambhaavana par vichaar karen ki atyadhik maatra mein hangaama ho raha hai. is sambhaavana par vichaar karen ki andar atyadhik thandak hai. dayaalu, mujhe pata hai... aap vahaan ek sarvar ke chakkar mein pad gae hain! kya tum mujhe kamazor samajh rahe ho? kis kaaran se ham kisee bhee samay apane bhojanaalay ke prati vaphaadaar nahin rah sakate? kis kaaran se aap kisee bhee samay mere prati vafaadaar rah sakate hain? main bilkul sthir hoon aur aapako saump diya gaya hoon!
soch: mujhe yah jaanakar bahut avishvasaneey lagata hai ki aapako badalaav kee aavashyakata hai. kya tum sab mujh par cheezen nahin badalate... haalaanki, theek hai, main tumase pyaar karata hoon aur main tumhaare peechhe us bhojanaalay tak chaloonga (aur duniya kee sabase door kee seema tak, yah maanate hue ki mujhe isakee aavashyakata hai). mujhe kisee bhee apratyaashit sthiti ke lie taiyaar hone ke lie bas thode se samay kee aavashyakata hai.
hastakshep karane vaale baaharee vyakti ke pratikaarak: apane sandeh ke baare mein jaanen. gambheerata se bharosa rakhen aur lagaataar yah anumaan lagaane kee koshish karana chhod den ki kya bura ho sakata hai. badalaavon aur jhatakon ko sakaaraatmak maanakar sveekaar karen. naye ko apanao.
beparavaah
kah raha hai: priye, ham sab saamaajik sambandh ke baare mein kya sochate hain aur ek jhataka laga hai!
soch raha hoon: main aapase itana pyaar karata hoon ki main aapake saath hue sabhee moorkhataapoorn anubhavon ko saajha karana chaahata hoon aur mera maanana hai ki aapako mere saath khelana chaahie. isake alaava, main tulyata se itanee tejee se thak jaata hoon ki main shaayad hee aapase chipak paata hoon, sivaay isake ki agar ham cheejon ko thoda sa hilaen (sabhee cheejon par vichaar karen, ek tan!) to main oorjaavaan aur sphoortivaan mahasoos kar sakata hoon. mujhe har cheez par dhyaan dena chaahie! mujhe kisee bhee bade avasar ko ganvaane kee koee ichchha nahin hai.
manoranjan ko sanjone ke lie pratikaarak: pratibaddh hon aur kisee nishchit cheez kee or aage badhen. atyadhik pratibaddhata, atyadhik sharaab peene, atyadhik kharch karane se door rahen. ahankaaree na banane ka prayaas karen. sabhee baaton par vichaar karate hue kitaaben padhana shuroo karen. vaastav mein, ham jaanate hain ki aap padhane se kataraate hain, phir bhee jin cheejon se aap sabase jyaada napharat karate hain, ve aapake lie bahut achchhee hain. kuchh chunen aur usase jude rahen.
mardaana
yah kahate hue: priye, jab main tumhen ukasaoon aur chillaane lagoon, to krpaya chhipane kee koshish mat karana. mera anumaan hai ki aapako pratikaar karana chaahie! dayaalu, meree naaraajagee aapako chintit karatee hai aur aap maan lete hain ki aap mere aasapaas sankat mein hain? jaisa bhee ho, main aapakee suraksha ke lie yahaan hoon! mujhe andaaza nahin tha ki aapane socha hoga ki main damanakaaree aur zabaradast hoon. main anivaary roop se atyadhik surakshaatmak ho raha hoon (aur main kisee bhee any vyakti se ladoonga jo aapako chot pahunchaane ka prayaas karega). main nishchit roop se aapako gaalee nahin de raha hoon, yahee vah tareeka hai jisase main sambhog karata hoon."
mardaanaapan ke lie upaay: gaharaee se saans len aur apanee aadhee shakti aur ichchha ka prayog niyamit roop se karen. kisee bhee keemat par apanee us kamazoree ka ek hissa dikhaane mein ek pal ke lie bhee sankoch na karen jise aap apane andar vyakt karate hain aur jise aap chhupaane kee sakht koshish karate hain.
sahamat
kah raha hai: nishchit roop se, priye, tum jo kuchh bhee kahatee ho aur jisakee tumhen aavashyakata hai vah mere lie theek hai (chaahe kitane samay tak koee vivaad na ho). mujhe koee jaldee nahin hai.
soch: mainne pahale hee apanee dhaaranaon ko kam kar diya hai (taaki main niraash na ho jaoon aur jo main chaahata hoon usaka peechha na karoon agar mujhe drdh hona chaahie, nirnay lena chaahie aur, bhagavaan na kare, sangharsh karana chaahie). main yah bhee nishchit nahin hoon ki mujhe ab aur kya chaahie (ise spasht karane ya ise aage badhaane kee to baat hee chhodie), itana nishchit hai ki main aaoonga. kisee bhee maamale mein, yadi yah bahut adhik pareshaanee nahin hai, to mujhase ek baar phir se poochhen (aur ek baar aur!) mujhe kya chaahie, maan leejie ki aap mujhe aur meree aavashyakataon ko najarandaaj karate rahenge (jinake baare mein mujhe, din ke ant mein, koee suraag nahin hai) ke baare mein), mera aakrosh vikasit hota rahega aur antatah anivaary roop se pratyaashit samay mein visphot ho jaega.
sahamat ke lie prativish: apane jeevan ke prati jaagen. apane aap ko, apanee aavashyakataon aur zarooraton ke prati sachet rahen, aur yah pata lagaen ki bhaavanaon aur ichchhaon mein virodhaabhaason kee sambhaavana ke baavajood unhen kaise sampreshit kiya jae. sofe se utaren aur ve kaam karana shuroo karen jinase aapako aur keval aapako suvidha hogee. isake alaava, yadi yah bahut adhik pareshaanee vaala nahin hai, to gati pakad len - aapakee is antardrshti kee paravaah kie bina ki sab kuchh sthir hai, samay ud jaata hai aur aap atirikt 200 varshon ka anubhav karenge.