logon ko pyaar na mil paane ka nambar ek kaaran kya hai?
vyaktiyon ko pyaar nahin mil paane ka mukhy kaaran spasht roop se spasht prateet ho sakata hai. haalaanki, yah sabhee ke lie ek mudda hai. yah maanate hue ki yah svayan-spasht hai, koee bhee ise ghatit nahin karega. logon ko pyaar nahin mil paane ka mukhy kaaran yah hai ki ve dhyaan nahin dete hain.
mujhe yakeen hai ki adhikaansh log sveekaar karate hain ki ve isamen shaamil ho rahe hain. vaise bhee, hamen dhun mein bane rahane ka abhyaas karane ka nirdesh diya gaya hai. log eemaanadaaree se sochate hain ki sunane ka matalab hai ki aap drshti se jud rahe hain aur chup ho jaate hain. cheejon ko pooree tarah se spasht karane ke lie, adhikaansh log shaantipoorn nahin hain. ve har baar jab bhee doosare vyakti ko sunane ke bina kuchh karane ka mauka milata hai to use kaat dete hain. doosaron ke sambandh mein ve uttar dene par dhyaan de rahe hain. phir bhee any log jo kaha ja raha hai aur jo unhonne pahale suna hai usamen antar kar rahe hain. baavajood isake, ve vakta ka pata lagaane par dhyaan nahin de rahe hain. yah maanate hue ki aap notis karate hain, koee bhee poochhataachh shaayad hee kee jaatee hai. jis bindu par ve hain, yah jo bataaya ja raha hai use badanaam karana hai.
jab aap nahin sunate hain, to yah door kee kaudee hai ki aap unhen samajh paenge. badee poochhataachh yah hai: jab koee vyakti unhen sambodhit kar raha hota hai to ve kis par dhyaan de rahe hote hain? saamaanyataya, vyaktiyon ko yah samajh mein nahin aata hai ki ve apanee vartamaan paristhiti se praapt drdh vishvaas dhaanche par dhyaan de rahe hain. isase ve us cheez ke baare mein soche bina nirnay lete hain jo ve vaastav mein sun rahe hain.
aisee anaginat sthitiyaan hain jab do vyakti vyavahaary hote hain. lekin, ve ise dekh nahin sakate kyonki ve tyooning mein nahin hain. ve maan sakate hain ki vyakti unakee tasveer ko shaamil nahin karata hai. saath hee, adhikaansh samay vyakti vyavahaary nahin hote hain. kisee bhee sthiti mein, ve us vaastavikata se chook jaate hain kyonki ve isamen tyoon nahin kar rahe the. un maamalon mein, ve vyakti ko uthale upaayon ko poora karane ke lie sveekaar kar sakate hain.
pooree eemaanadaaree se, vyaktiyon ko vaastav mein isamen shaamil hone ke lie taiyaar rahana chaahie. hamaare yahaan chal rahe saamaajik nirmaan mein yah shikshit nahin hai.
aapaka kya vichaar hai? main aapakee aalochana sunane ke alaava aur kuchh nahin chaah sakata. isake alaava, main aapake vichaaron ke lie upalabdh hoon.